What if the decisions you needed to make as a leader put you at risk of being unpopular? Would you be tempted to prioritize being well-liked over being respected??? Here I share my thoughts.Read More
Ten years ago this past week, I was ordained an Itinerant Elder in the AME Church a few short weeks after graduating seminary. Here I share some of my feelings where I am in ministry as I pause to reflect on this milestone.Read More
Can I be honest? As accomplished as I am and as together as I seem to be to some people, my life is in chaos. It's so true. I live in a constant chaotic frenzy. I'm constantly rushing, anxious, forgetful, last minute, and all of the other things that come to mind when you here the word chaos.Read More
Lately I’ve been trying to figure out how to move the needle forward in my life in a more significant way. It’s true that in the past year and a half I’ve enjoyed some success and experienced some high moments, but the truth is that I am nowhere close to being where and who I want to be. I still have so much work to do that at times it feels overwhelming.Read More
Happy Saturday! I write this from my couch in my pjs under my fuzzy blanket where I have been for the last two days since returning from my most recent round of travel. It has always seemed exciting to me to be in this city one minute and that city the next, but the reality of that fantasy has me utterly exhausted.Read More
Happy New Year! Well kind of because it's already February and surprisingly I don't need a do-over...yet. Give me time though and I'm sure I will want to hit the reset button.
As you can see from my absence it has been an incredibly ridiculous and ridiculously incredible five months or so. After a year of planning, the Leadership Conference and the Leadership Summit Series final came and went. It was an incredible time and I am so thankful for what these events gave to me and my colleagues as well as added to me personally.Read More
Wow! I can't believe it has been two months since you have heard a word from me smh. I am so so sorry for going dark. These last two months have been more than a notion. I have been putting the full weight of my effort and focus into ministry at Turner and earning my keep as Minister of Leadership Growth & Development. We have some exciting projects coming down the pipeline and I have been absolutely consumed with both anxiety and excitement. And I already know all of the faith-filled phrases I should be speaking, but in my humanness I just can't help but to be a little (well a lot) anxious about all of this.Read More
Right now, right in this moment, I've completely lost my train of thought. Completely! I can't seem to tap into my motivation for writing the piece I was working on and I cannot remember the ultimate point I was trying to drive home. Why? Because I got distracted.
I am not one to show up to places just for the sake of showing up. If the purpose of me being present somewhere- anywhere- is to put in facetime, I would sooner stay home. Unfortunately once I entered ministry, facetime became a huge part of the expectation while I was in training. We were always expected to be in place- at meetings, at services, at conferences, etc.- just in case we were called upon (which we seldom were). It did however teach me discipline and the importance of being faithful.
If I’ve heard it once, I’ve heard it a thousand times- titles aren’t important. Most of the time the people who are making this statement either don’t have a title or benefit from entitlements that come from being white, male, or older. Since I am none of those things, my titles (I happen to have two) are important particularly in my vocationRead More
Everyone wants to be a visionary. In fact most people, especially preachers and creative types, like to describe themselves as visionaries. Why? Because we have lots of visions. Big visions. Awe-inspiring visions. As grand as that sounds, ‘vision’ is just a high-minded word for an idea that may or may not come to pass depending on what you do about it.Read More